9/08/2017

Mom, You are NOT Alone: Encouragement From Another Mom


 

As a mother of two, I understand what probably most mothers go through daily. As a full-time mother who is with her children 24/7, I fully understand the struggle that parenting/motherhood can bring. Of course, the blessings of parenting will always outweigh the struggles, but sometimes, it's good to let others know that you understand them because you're going through similar experiences. Our overall experiences may be different, but they sure are similar. Motherhood is one of the hardest, yet most rewarding "jobs" out there. I mean come on, you are raising a HUMAN being! How successful you are will impact the future generation one way or the other. It is a huge responsibility that comes with lots of bumps on the road, but most mothers usually keep it all to themselves for fear of sounding whiny or ungrateful. I'm here to tell you, you are NOT alone!


Repeating yourself all the time
Throughout the day, you say one thing multiple times and still feel as if you're speaking to the wall sometimes. You dream of a day when you simply give an instruction and it is followed through without constantly repeating yourself. You're not trying to be mean or bossy, you just want the best for your kids and try your best to keep them from getting harmed.

Being pro at multitasking and pulled from different directions
If multitasking was not one of your strongest points before becoming motherhood, well, there you have it, thank motherhood for a brand-new skill! Alhamdulillah (all thanks and praise be to Allah). But... it can be draining at times. You always feel as if you're being pulled from different directions, so you have no choice but to try doing multiple things at once. But hey, you're only a human being at the end of the day, so your multitasking does fail sometimes.

Being asked repeated questions even after you have answered them
If you don't experience this, what's your secret!? Are there actually any mothers on earth not going through this? But, I must admit, it can be funny and cute at times. The little brains are learning, so it's all good.

Dealing with cries and misbehavior
Aren't kids cute? Well, until they just don't stop crying... Okay, maybe they always are cute, maa shaa Allah, but it can still be annoying at times to always hear cries. It can be frustrating, and even highly stressful. Sometimes there are obvious reasons for the cries and misconducts, and other times, it's hard to point out what the problem is. If the kids are a bit older or at an age of talking, you may spend time trying to get some information out of them. If they can’t talk, then you just have to put your thinking cap on and assess the situation carefully. I believe there's always a reason why a child cries or seems to be misbehaving, but finding the patience for it all can sometimes be draining.

Finding it hard to get things done
Getting one simple task done can sometimes take you forever. On a gloomy day, getting certain things done becomes almost impossible. If you also work from home, you may as well get 30 hours a day! So, you feel extremely productive when you are finally able to cross out your to-do list. But of course, things get better as you learn to manage your time, Alhamdulillah.


Getting things done after children go to sleep
Since you're finding it hard to get things done, you end up doing most of your tasks after your children go to sleep. Wait; shouldn't that be the perfect time to sleep? In your dreams! The... sleepless type of dreams.

Forgetting about food or eating late
You may be so focused on your kids or getting things done that you end up forgetting about food or end up eating late. Your priorities are kid-focused. But truly, those kids also need their mother to be in good shape and healthy! As the saying goes, “happy wife mom, happy life home.”

Feeling constantly exhausted
This may be a little exaggerated; or maybe not, depending on how many children you have, and other factors. But let's just say that tiredness definitely creeps in a lot of time. It's a no-brainer! You're multitasking and being pulled from different directions all day.


Dealing with sleeplessness
What is sleep? Sound foreign! Okay, okay, okay, you do get sleep... sometimes. As if exhaustion wasn't enough, now you can't sleep. It may be because of extreme tiredness, overthinking of the next day, planning lessons (if you’re a home educator and it’s that planning day), or simply because you probably have a newborn. Whatever it is, it's all good; you can take it... sometimes. On all seriousness, it's not very fun or healthy to have sleep deprivation. There must be a way around this.


Wanting a break
Who doesn't want a break sometimes? As cute and adorable as your children are, sometimes you just want a little break. A break can be a little quiet 'me-time' in your room alone, a walk at the park, tea/coffee with friends (without the kids), reading your favorite book, at the seashore listening to the waves, or alone at the masjid listening to your favorite Qur'an reciter reciting your favorite surah (chapter). Whatever it may be, you just want a break; just a little.

Affected by other people's experiences
This one hits home for me. Every time I hear of or see another person's child getting hurt, I either break down or become extremely sad. This is not necessarily a bad thing; it's called empathy. But when it can quickly become draining when it's taken to the extreme. Once you become a mother, you just have that extra level of empathy towards another mother. When you see other mothers go through (with their children) what you believe you could have never found the strength to endure, it hurt; badly! You just can't imagine how a mother could find the strength to see their children suffer. Then you quickly remind yourself, "that's life sometimes. I'm not guaranteed bliss the next minute."


Comparing yourself to other mothers while thinking they just have it perfectly figured out
You think, "why can't I just be like these mothers? They are so organized and have it all figured out. What's wrong with me?" The struggle gets even more real; or laughable. I say laughable because maybe those mothers think the same about you! I was very surprised when a friend of mine thought I was a very organized mother who knew what she was doing... all the time! Hmmm, no; maybe sometimes, but not all the time. We just never know what's behind closed doors, so it's easy to set unrealistic expectations on ourselves when compared to what we think others are like. Imagine being in a room full of stressed mother with smiles on their faces. Now imagine all those mothers thinking, "Allahumma baarik 'alayki (may Allah's blessing be upon her), she's the perfect example of a mother. She just has it! What's wrong with me!?" *Let me give you a minute to laugh it off* Done? Okay, welcome back. No comment.


Feeling guilt and keeping things to yourself
You just "know" that you re terrible mother and you don't dare embarrass yourself by voicing your feelings. You beat yourself down (not literally, if so, please don't), and believe you will be wrongfully judged by other mothers whom you believe have it perfectly figured out. So, you decide to never talk about your daily struggles as a mother. Motherhood is a natural part of life. I mean come on, there couldn't possibly be anything wrong; unless of course one is a terrible mother. Wrong! I once thought the same, and still have guilts sometimes. It is easy to feel as if you're doing it all wrong. If things aren't as organized as you want them to be, there's always room for improvement. But it doesn't mean you're a bad mother; we are all in this journey together. It's a learning progress, a journey, but one that will never be perfect. Life, as naturally as we know it, comes with ups and downs. It is 100% normal to go through motherhood struggles.

Finding it hard to let go of your children
Despite all the bumps, you still find it difficult to let go of your children. I don't know about you, but no matter how stressed I get, unless it's an emergency, I still find it hard to be away from my children for a long period of time. I couldn't even withstand an hour without feeling the need to call, check on them, or go get my babies! So, I don't know how mothers who work outside of the home manage to stay sane. Different people have different reasons for doing what they do, and some people simply have no other choice. Besides, things can always change from one minute to another. Getting back to the topic; yes, despite everything, it is still hard to get away from those cutie fingers and toes! That's motherhood. *Smile*

The good?
Everything; maybe including the stress.
Blessing of being a mother
Besides all the above mentioned, nothing can compare to being a mother. It is normal to feel stressed out sometimes, want a break, feel guilty, but always KNOW that there can only be one YOU. Your role as a mother is like none other. Will you face struggles at times? Of course you will; as I said, it's normal. We never know what goes on behind closed doors, so we couldn't possible know that other mothers face similar struggles to what we face unless we share, reach out, listen, and/or read. Just know that you are NOT alone, and things get better in shaa Allah. Talking about it may help you release your stress or maybe help someone else understand that THIS is part of motherhood, and reduce their guilt. Motherhood is a blessing from Allah that shouldn't be taken for-granted. People are blessed differently, and at different times. Some people have children, some don't, some have them early, and some have them later. That's life.

You learn new things and relearn old info
This is especially true if you're also a homeschooler. On top of learning new things and remembering old information, your children's curious brains will help you keep the learned information current. Children often repeat what they learn, so hearing the same info will also help you retain it.

You are forced to work on your patience
I don't know about you, but patience is not my strongest suit. I am starting to see an improvement as time passes, even though there's a regress sometimes. Overall, I think my patience may have improved, Alhamdulillah. Motherhood forces you to work on yourself.

Your love for them makes it all worth it and brings you joy
At the end of the day, you wouldn't change it for the world! Seeing your children grow, taken care of, smile, happy, and simply develop warms your heart. You just can't believe that YOU are raising human beings and have such a great impact on them. That... makes you want to try even more! So, take a moment and say, “Alhamdulillah (all praise and thanks be to Allah).”

Keep going mommy!

May Allah bless you and your children.

So, what else do you think mothers often struggle with and keep it to themselves thinking they are alone? Please share in the comment below.

8/12/2017

6 Crucial Tips on Preventing Sibling Rivalry

 
Sibling love is a very important part of unity in a family. When siblings don't love each other, it weakens the family, and leads to many other problems; including social issues. But we have to understand that it all starts from childhood; or even before. I will share six crucial tips on how to prevent sibling rivalry and increase love instead, inShaa Allah. 

1. Purify your intentions and make du'a (supplication)
Umar ibn Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Surely, all actions are but driven by intentions, and verily every man shall have but that which he intended..." Al Bukharah.
Everything we do in life starts with the intention we make. By purifying our intentions and doing everything for the sake of Allah helps ease the journey and gain reward from Allah. So make the intention to have children who love each other and help each other on the straight path. Start thinking about this even before having kids, or before marriage. And don't forget to make lots of ad'iyah (duas), asking Allah to make it possible.

2. Involve your first children throughout your pregnancy
When you're expecting your next child, always involve your previous children and make them feel like their participation, care, and love matters a lot to the family and the unborn baby. When talking to the unborn baby and rubbing your belly, do that while your children are next to you, and ask them if they would like to try. When they do, smile, and let them know what a good job they are doing. Encourage them, and call them good brothers/sisters because of how kind they are to their unborn sibling. 
It always warmed my heart when my daughter would try to teach the baby when I was expecting. She loved rubbing the belly with oils and butters, and the baby was the first person she would want to speak to in the morning. Allahumma baarik 'alayki (May Allah bless her).

3. Once the baby is born, allow the older children to help
Now that the new baby is born, try not to neglect the older children. Allow them to help out; with supervision. Don't always play with the new baby while forgetting the other children. Try not to make everything about the new baby. Yes, it's normal to care more for the newborn because he/she requires more care and is more fragile; but involve the other children as much as possible. And throughout the process, praise them for their hard work, kindness, and well appreciated help. It would encourage them to want to do more, and make them feel like they matter. It would also teach them responsibility and understand that the baby needs their help. This will eventually increase their love for their new sibling, and vice versa inShaa Allah.

4. Show by actions
Love and respect your children, so they will learn what love is. Children learn better through actions. It would make no sense if you try to make them love each other while you show them little to no love. Also, if you have siblings around, interact with them in a loving way. This will also set an example for your children to follow. But don't lose hope if your family (parents, siblings, etc) isn't very loving; it is still possible to make a difference in your new family.

5. Always encourage your children to love each other
Now that you have established a pattern of love through actions, don't forget to also remind your children to love each other. Communicate with them even if they are little. When you make mistakes, let them know that no one is perfect and that people make mistakes sometimes. If they witness poor examples, don't lose hope; communicate with them. Let them know that things don't always happen the way they should, but that we should always strive to do better.

6. Trust in Allah in whatever happens afterwards
Do your best and don't beat yourself if things don't work out exactly the way you envisioned. As long as we do our best, the results aren't in our control. Allah is the One in control of all affairs, and His Wisdom is powerful. So just keep making du'a, and trust in Allah.

May Allah increase the love in our families, and the whole Muslim ummah.

8/04/2017

FREE Homeschooling Planning Printables + a GIVEAWAY

 
Assalaam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh!
If you haven't already seen, I've piled up a number of free planning resources with different styles and colors. You will find calendars, cover pages, dividers, and many more. The idea is to allow you to make your own homeschooling planner using varieties of free resources. Even if you do buy or download whole planners, having many choices of planning sheets will allow you to customize your planner as much as possible inShaa Allah.

Besides the free homeschooling planning sheets, you will also find household planning printables and more. Make sure to regularly check the Planners page as I will upload new files once in a while inShaa Allah. You are free to share the links with others.
If you need any help putting your planner together, please do not hesitate to contact me bi-idhmillah.
Click HERE for FREE Planner Printables

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7/18/2017

2 FREE Phonics Printable Packs

 
I hope you're all doing well, and in the best state of emaan and health. 
Today, I have two simple phonics activity bundles for you which can be used for both Preschoolers and Kindergarten. The focus is on letter recognition and beginning tracing (letter mold). Both activity bundles include upper and lowercase. 

1. Find the Correct Letter Activity Pack - A-Z
Here is a sample of the activity:

2. Letter Practice Playdough Mats Activity Pack - a-z
Here is a sample of the activity pack:
Mistake in pack 2 fixed!
*Laminate activity sheets from both packs to reuse them.

If you find this printable useful, please kindly leave a comment below to let us know. If you have any tips, don't hesitate to share.
Enjoy!
Click on the books below to download the printables.

https://sites.google.com/site/ihsaanhomeacademy/download/Find%20the%20correct%20letter%20activity%20pack.pdf?attredirects=0&d=1

https://sites.google.com/site/ihsaanhomeacademy/download/Letter%20Practice%20Playdough%20Mats.pdf?attredirects=0&d=1

For questions, feel free to leave a comment below or contact me directly inShaa Allah.

7/01/2017

FREE Counting Object Pack

 
If you're teaching your child how to count, this printable may be a very activity for him/her.
It's basically a mini interactive notebook which involves cutting and gluing.
The student would need to count the object, color it, identify the number that corresponds with it, and cut & glue the number in the correct box.

This is good for:
- Fine motor skills
- Number recognition
- Number count

To download the pack (4 pages), CLICK HERE

6/18/2017

2 Ahadith to Remember During these Last 10 Nights of Ramadhan

 
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Here are two ahadith that I wanted to share as a reminder for the last 10 nights of Ramadhan. May Allah grant us success. 

'A'isha (may Allah be pleased with here) narrated: "With the start of the last ten days of Ramadhan, the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to tighten his waist belt (i.e. work hard) and used to pray all the night, and used to keep his family awake for the prayers."  Sahih Al-Bukhari


Narrated by ‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her): “I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, what is your view if I know when the Night of Al-Qadr is, then what should I say in it?’ He said: ‘Say: Allahumma innaka ‘afuwwun, tuhibbul ‘afwa fa’fu ‘anni (O Allah, indeed You are Pardoning, You love pardoning, so pardon me.’” Ath-Thirmithi












6/12/2017

Limited FREEBIES: Course Curriculum Planner

 
If you're a homeschooler or plan on homeschooling, then you know that failing to plan is to plan to fail. Planning is very crucial when it comes to almost everything in life. As an educator, the last thing you want is to start looking for what to cover for the day at the last minute. The best thing is having the whole week, month, or even months planned to save time and avoid mental torture. If you're looking for a free planner, then this printable may be for you.

There are many different types of planners on the net, and each person is looking for something different that suits his/her needs. This planner is specifically for planning individual courses at a time. If you are a home educator who prefers setting up her own curricula instead of out-of-the-box curricula, then I believe this planner would be perfect for you depending on how you plan. It could also be used for a ready-made curriculum if you plan on not strictly following the curriculum planner. You can also use it to mix a ready-made curriculum with supplementary resources.

How to use this planner:
1. Print as many copies of each sheet depending on how many courses you wish to plan for.
2. Write the information of the course such as the name of the course, the grade level, year, goals for the course, resources you plan on using, total cost, and a detailed description of the course.
3. Make a yearly plan for each month using the yearly planner page. Write down the lessons you wish to cover for each month, and resources to go to.
4. On the monthly planner page, write in much more details the lesson you wish to cover for each week and days of the week (i.e. books, pages).
5. You may use this planner as your only homeschooling planner or additionally use a weekly planner for multiple courses while referring to your planned courses from this planner.
6. You can also use this planner as an independent learners' planner. If you have bigger kids who learn independently, they can use this planner (after you have written the course details) and check the accomplished lessons as they go.

*You can laminate the pages to reuse them multiple times if you wish. You can also write on it using erasable pens.

How I plan on using this planner:
1. Plan out all my courses using this planner since I prefer making my own curricula.
2. Use a weekly planner for multiple courses for my day to day planner; but refer to my course planner to see what the next lessons throughout the year are inShaa Allah.

I hope this planner will benefit you inShaa Allah. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me and I will respond as soon as possible inShaa Allah.

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